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What are the events like?

Low pressure is the focus! Almost every participant reports being nervous before attending. The comfort in this is that everybody is in the same vulnerable boat. The tone of the event is designed from start to finish to enable you to relax and sink into your joyful and authentic self while enjoying getting to know other men and women. From the moment you enter the event, we have organized activities and conversation starters to keep you engaged and chatting. We encourage participants to come open to meeting new friends, expanding their professional network and of course potentially meeting that special someone. It’s all a win! 

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What if I only see one person of interest at the event?

Temper those expectations! In any crowd, finding that special someone can be like finding a needle in a haystack. Our events mix regulars and newbies, so while one night might seem sparse, another could be a jackpot. Plus, with our community app, you can connect with more singles even after the event. Remember, even making a new friend can lead to meeting your match. So, stay open to all the possibilities!

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What do we mean by a professional?

There are several definitions of professional but here we are referring to a person engaged in a specified activity as one's paid occupation rather than a pastime.

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Can I attend if I am separated?

We ask that all attendees be single, divorced or widowed. 

 

How do I choose the right event for my age?

At WhoU, we’re a boutique singles community focused on creating the best possible experience for local singles. While many large dating platforms aim to scale quickly, our priority is quality over quantity — thoughtfully curated events, balanced groups, and meaningful interactions.

Because we serve a smaller geographic area, our age ranges are intentionally a bit wider than what you might see in major cities. Even within those ranges, our events naturally follow a bell curve: most attendees tend to fall near the middle of the age bracket, with a few outliers on either end for both men and women.

If you find yourself at the upper or lower edge of an age range, keep in mind that our events are designed for more than just meeting a romantic match. You could meet someone who introduces you to your future partner, become friends with someone who truly gets you, or make valuable personal and professional connections.

In short:

Choose the event where you feel most comfortable.

No matter which one you attend, you’ll meet great people — and it will never be a wasted experience.

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What if I am older and typically date younger men/women? Can I attend a younger event?

At WhoU, we strive to ensure that all participants enjoy the experience they signed up for. While you might feel comfortable attending an event meant for a younger age group, it's important to consider that other attendees might prefer meeting peers within the specified range. To offer some flexibility, we have overlapping age ranges by 10 years. We kindly ask that you adhere to these ranges to maintain a balanced and enjoyable event for everyone.

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What is speed dating like and how do I connect with people after the event? 

During our speed dating rounds, you’ll rotate from table to table every 4–5 minutes to meet other singles in your group. To make things fun (and take the pressure off!), you’ll receive an Activity Sheet that includes all the anonymous “fun facts” participants submitted during registration.

Your goal?
Try to match each fun fact to the person you think it belongs to! It’s a great built-in icebreaker and a natural conversation starter. As you chat, you can write their name next to the fact—or simply ask for their number and jot it down.

Prefer to stay fully present and make bold moves later? No problem.
Your handout also includes space to take notes about each new connection, plus a QR code to download our community networking app.

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Should I download the app?

Yes — we highly recommend it! Our app is a private community available only to attendees of WhoU singles events and current coaching clients. This helps keep the space free of bots, catfishers, and people who aren’t genuinely interested in intentional, real-life dating.

All app users are required to upload a profile photo and use their real name. This allows us to verify that everyone in the community is truly part of the WhoU network and helps maintain a safe, authentic environment.

Once inside the app, you’ll be able to:

• Connect and message other members you met (or didn’t get a chance to meet!)

• Join groups and interest circles

• Share events or activities you’re planning to attend

• Invite others to join you

• See who else from your community might be going

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We also encourage you to add a short bio. Not everyone will have attended the same event as you, so this is a great way to help others get a feel for who you are. You can share:

• Your hobbies or interests

• A fun fact

• What you’re looking for

• What you do

• A few values that matter to you
  (All totally optional — just share what feels right!)

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A good bio helps people determine whether they'd like to reach out, and it makes conversations easier to start.

Finally, we ask all members to practice positivity and kindness. Our goal is to build a community where your words bring people together, support genuine connection, and foster a space that feels safe, uplifting, and fun.

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Can I register and pay at the door? 

No. It is important to sign up in advance. This helps us prepare and assures that you receive the pre & post event email information and participant contact info.  

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Waitlists & are the events balanced (men/women)? 

WhoU works to provide a consistent quality of event. I will not host an event if I don't have at least  10 women and 10 men and the numbers are balanced.  Events tend to average between 20-40 participants with 40 being the max in order for there to be enough time for everyone to meet during our speed dating rounds. To assure the numbers are balanced, I will sell 12 tickets to women and men to begin. Women typically purchase ahead of men and so in order to assure that we have a balance, once I have sold all of those first release tickets for women, I will start a waitlist. Once the numbers balance I will begin releaseing 5 tickets at a time to the first women on the Eventbrite waitlist until the event.  Having a waiting list assures that those interested are able to get in line to attend when tickets become available.  

 

Even with all of this, there are always challenges to balancing. Someone may get sick or nervous and not attend. We ask that participants let us know so we can let someone else attend, but this does not always happen. If this is the case, you may have a round our two that might be solo. This is a good time to visit the restroom or get another drink.

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Can I get a refund if I don't attend?

Unlike some dating event companies that charge penalties for cancellations or no-shows (e.g., CitySwoon in Chicago), WhoU operates on a commitment-based model. When you purchase a ticket, you are committing not only to attend but also to the other participants and WhoU’s planning efforts.

WhoU prepares for each event by printing materials—including survey responses you provide—and carefully balancing attendance. Ticket sales often close once a balanced number of participants is reached, meaning last-minute cancellations can create imbalances that may not be easy to correct.

That said, we understand that unexpected situations can arise. Here’s what you need to know:

• If the event is canceled due to low registration, we will issue a full refund.

• If the event is not canceled but you cannot attend, you have two options:

  • Ticket Transfer: You may transfer your ticket to a friend for this event or any future event. However, we require at least 48 hours' notice before the event to process the transfer.

  • Event Credit: You may apply your ticket to a future event of your choice, but only if you notify us at least 48 hours in advance that you cannot attend. No-shows are not eligible for event credits or transfers.

We appreciate your understanding and commitment to making our events a great experience for all participants!

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What If someone attends that I am uncomfortable with? 

Our pre-event survey asks you to list anyone you may feel uncomfortable running into at our events. If that person then registers, we will let you know and refund your ticket.

 

If you run into a co-worker you talk with daily or someone you have gone on a date with (didn't work out),  you both may just maturely decide to skip this particular speed-dating round and simply say to the other that you are going to refresh your drink or take the opportunity to use the restroom.

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What should I wear? 

While each event has a bit of a different feel, Comfort is important. Find an outfit you feel confident in and that is the right outfit for this event. Some participants wear jeans and a nice shirt and others wear a dress or suit. Contact WhoU, if you want help shopping for a new look for an event. Check our services page for our personal shopping service.

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Does WhoU do background checks on participants? 

No, please see our terms and conditions. By registering for an event, you are indicating that you have read and agree with our terms and conditions. While we want to create a wonderful event to meet a variety of people, it is your responsibility to follow safe dating procedures. 

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Do you have more questions I didn’t answer? Please contact us with your question.

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